On Thursday I went on a retreat day with a group of other youth workers from the York Diocese and it was nice to have a chance to sit back and reflect for the day. However one thing I seem to notice is that whatever youth worker’s get together sooner or later we seem to come onto the state of the church and our disappointment with it and having spent the car journey home listening to a sermon from Scum of the Earth church I tweeted this upon arriving home.

When I tweeted this I didn’t expect anything more than perhaps a few Facebook ‘Likes’ if even that however following a retweet by cartoonist (amongst other things) Dave Walker the response looked like this:

This response for me suggests that it’s not just me and a bunch of York diocese youth workers who feel this way but a variety of church go-ers everywhere (perhaps the majority of the 20′s/30′s age group have already answered my blog title and left) which begs the question.

If so many of us feel disappointed, let down and side-lined by institutionalised church then why do we even bother going?

Obviously the good Christian and theological answer is that church isn’t about getting something from it ourselves but about reaching out to others and giving to God and I completely agree with that principal however if as William Temple said

church is the only organisation that exists for the benefit of it’s non-members

then church massively fails (in the majority of cases).

There are so many stories of people wanting to change the church but failing because the majority of the church want things as they always have been.

The problem is that those radicals in the church who want to see the church dramatically transformed into the welcoming, Jesus-bursting, heart of the community that it should be can easily find themselves just going along with our closed, culturally out-of-date, in-reality-not-that-welcoming church not because their passion has died but because there appears to be no way to change the church. That or these radicals end up burnt out through frustration and inevitably join the huge list of those who’ve lef the church.

Comfortable Church

I guess the route of the problem is that church has become comfortable. We want to go there, have a nice cosy time, sing a few familiar hymns and go home again…we daren’t expect that church is going to change our lives or challenge us. Francis Scott, who preached at the church I went to this morning said (in his sermon) ‘the church has become a cruise ship’ and I guess he’s right.

The problem with this cruise ship church is that we’re stuck with a church that is generally unwilling to change or even afraid to change…we’re just floating along nicely, thank you.

The biggest frustration I have as a youth worker (alongside sadly seeing young people throw their faith away over impulsive temptations) is that whilst it’s fantastic to see young people coming to Christ the fact is that when they hit 18 or leave university and student church at some point they’re going to either drift away or have to find a mainstream church.

Can we change the church?

In short I guess the answer (typed with a huge amount of doubt) is yes. I wholeheartedly believe that many aspects of church aren’t how God wants them, that there are thousands of people out there who’d have a relationship with Jesus were it not for the selfishness of Christians.

If we want to be bringing people into the kingdom our churches shouldn’t be side-lining people. One of the most beautiful experiences of church I’ve been part of was at Park Road in Peterborough where during an evening service a homeless, completely drunk man came and sat in the service and whilst he didn’t remotely fit in with the ‘norm’ and was noisy was allowed to be there and even picked a random hymn after requesting ‘how great thou art’. On top of that St Barnabas’ in Swanland this morning had organised a mini-bus so some disabled members of the community could come to church. Now that’s what I’m talking about!

If church really is about a group of people who have a relationship with Jesus then it shouldn’t be boring. If someone is passionate about something you can hear it in their voice and see it in their hearts as they talk about it and that is exciting. If we’re a church of people genuinely passionate about Christ then church shouldn’t be boring. I can’t help but feel all too often our services are based on tradition and not passion. (More on passion in this post)

Some final thoughts…

So what would happen if everyone who was bored, let down or side-lined by the church stopped coming?

I strongly suspect we’d lose the majority of our congregations and probably a huge chunk of our church leaders (certainly a load of youth workers*). However I don’t know that we should give up and go. One of the responses on Facebook was

Any ideas 4 radical changes then?

and the answer to that is yes!

I can’t tell you how a church should be…I can’t blog a perfect order of service or a list of songs that will make the church perfect but I can come back to that quote I used earlier from William Temple who said ‘church is the only organisation that exists for it’s non-members’ .

Our churches need to be examining ourselves (and I don’t mean a ‘well we’re doing x, y, z so we must be good) completely, honestly and really asking ourselves if that is true for our church because if it’s not then we need to do some re-thinking. If we’re changing a service or introducing something new then the fact that someone is complaining about it shouldn’t matter, we should be asking whether or not it is beneficial for those who don’t already know Christ.

Church shouldn’t feel odd and weird for new comers but should feel like home.

I think those are my thoughts although as always feel free to comment and I may find myself developing my thoughts more.

* this isn’t to say that youth worker’s aren’t whole-heartily passionate about Christ and don’t believe in the cause but to say that that actually they feel that the church doesn’t cut it…there’s a difference!