The Lost Generation (where are the 20-somethings in church?)
“If you’re trying to reach un-churched young adults there’s not a worse time than a sunday morning” – Dan Southerland
The other day I finally got around to listening to a CD talk by Dan Southerland on leadership and vision which Tony had leant to me and as I listened the above quote jumped out.
One of my biggest frustrations with the church is that when it comes to people my own age unless you go to a ‘all the hype money can buy’ church they don’t really exist.
Back in October I was involved in organising an event with Lee Kirkby which set out to bring 15-25′s together to talk about how the church needs to change to accommodate more young people. As part of that Lee and myself did a keynote talk as a double act and as I introduced the grim statistics concerning younger people and the church I got to the point in my talk where I said ‘If I’m completely honest if I didn’t work for a church I wouldn’t go’.
At this stage I think it’s important that we distinguish the difference between Christianity and Church. I believe the message that Jesus brings of hope, salvation and forgiveness is more relevant in today’s society than it ever has been…unfortunately so often the church takes that exciting message and makes it the dullest thing in the world!
The talk that Dan Southerland gave was from a leadership conference a few years ago and he talked about the generation gap in the church and also how we ended up where we are in terms of Sunday morning services which can be basically summarised with;
If you want to attract farmers who’ve been out milking their cows to church then 10:30 is the perfect time
Our church service is set at a time which isn’t best for people, the content is often irrelevant and I think congregations are often blissfully unaware of the lack of 20 somethings in their church…for example…
At a recent church meeting the local Archdeacon asked about younger people in our church, to which one retired member of our congregation replied ‘we have lots of young couples get married in church, they come and hear their banns and lots keep on coming’.
As he spoke those words I sat there and thought about young couples in our church and couldn’t think of any because actually Jo and I are the only young couple in the church (and I’m paid to be there)!
Shifting Our Thoughts
Fundamentally if the church is going to attract younger people it needs to take a dramatic shift…it needs to be full of passion and communicate the message of Jesus in a relevant way. On top of that I think church needs to shift aware from Sunday services. Lots of younger people go out on a Saturday night and so is Sunday morning really the right time? (almost certainly not!).
Also in a world where everything for younger people is interactive is a front-led traditional hymn sandwich service appropriate or are relationships key? In a world where people tweet or Facebook on the go…where people comment on TV programmes via twitter in real time is there space for passive church teaching?
Conclusion
To be honest this blog hasn’t really concluded anything beyond the need for the church to change…for more young adults to come to church the whole church needs to get on board because the few younger couples/singles simply can’t do everything.
9 times out of 10 church is irrelevant…I love that our youth group get excited about cafe church because it’s interactive, there’s cake and nice coffee but it also saddens me that this leaves at least 2 out of 4 services branded by people (up to the age of mid-40s in our case) as ‘the boring service’.
I believe there is a place for the church…I think the support, discipleship, growth and challenges Christians receive from other Christians is absolutely essential…the relationship between Jesus and his 12 disciples really strongly backs this up…but that ‘church’ was based on relationships.
It would be interesting to see comments on this both about your experience of church and what we can do!


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